How to go Deeper in your Prayer Group

In my experience, there are few physical situations that we go through without a spiritual or emotional component, working behind the scenes to further complicate our problem.

I saw it just this morning.

A friend was sitting uncomfortable in church, wrestling with neck and back pain. She finally stood to walk back and ask the prayer team for prayer, but stopped in her tracks, overcome with the thought, “Am I really important enough to God for Him to heal me?

Her fear turned into a holy moment where healing took place in her heart and then in her body. As we laid hands on her back, He was making right her thoughts toward Himself and her worth to Him. It became a time of confession and affirmation. And then we watched her back pain begin to subside as well.

It is because of these stories that I care to go beyond the distant prayer requests that are often shared in a group. It may be easy to share about a sick relative, a long work project or desire for a healthy baby, but what doubts, worries and fears do those represent?

Is there More?

I think a better way to think about any prayer request, is that that everything can bear the weight of a real heart issue. And as a group, I believe we can care for others in a greater way by sensitively probing beyond those surface requests to a deeper level.

For example, when someone shares that another elderly relative is sick or in the hospital, reflect on what they have shared in the past –

You know, that’s the third important person in your life you mentioned has cancer this year. How are YOU handling this?”

When they have faced a job loss, their self-worth is likely taking a hit or their trust in God’s provision may be.

When they share a child is going astray, they may be reflecting on a lifetime of decisions and blaming themselves (or their spouse) for their child’s decisions.

When they are grieving a death, they may not only be missing that person, but grieving what didn’t happen or now won’t happen in that relationship.

In all of these, they may be questioning whether God is fair or good. 


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All of these concerns are opportunities to care about the emotions, the toll, the burden, the weight, the hit it might take on their faith, their view of themselves or of God, in the midst of this trial. There is always more going on. Always.

The enemy is always attacking our foundation. Hitting us on another level, filling our minds with doubt, bringing up guilt, or maligning our character or God’s. It’s his job and he is relentless.

But there is hope.


In my own life, I was experiencing some chronic health issues and allergies. Yes, I didn’t feel well, but so much else was also going on in my mind and spirit.

Because of my health, I was given strict diet restrictions. Within that limited diet, I began to feel anxiety in approaching meals or eating with others. Then I began to believe the lie that God’s wasn’t fair and wasn’t taking care of me. In that frail state, I began accepting lies that all of me was ugly and that somehow I wasn’t capable of being a good parent. What did my parenting even have to do with my health? But in my worn down state, the enemy of lies hit me in a weak spot as a young parent. It wasn’t until I recognized those lies piling up and exchanged them for God’s truth that the anxiety could subside.

I reached out to friends to pray for me in that season but had to work through these lies toward truth by myself. Perhaps you could be the friend that recognizes these stages may be happening in a friends’ life and help them find freedom?  

This scenario made me much more compassionate that even un-related fears could be hitting someone when going through a hard time. Perhaps if we dare to ask, we may be able to better care for that person as a whole. What good would it have really done me to be healed physically and yet continue to limp by with my newly gained anxiety, distrust of God and hatred toward myself?

We might just find our group deepen as we ask a sensitively timed follow-up question to their request and lead them to God’s truth in prayer. Some may be thankful to actually get to talk about their real concern.

(You can read my whole testimony here.)


Why not try it this week?

  1. BE SPIRIT-LED: The good news is that we don’t have to make assumptions or guess about their deepest feelings. Instead, ask the Holy Spirit to help you hear more about their heart. Ask Him to help to guide you in what may be affecting them beneath their request and what questions you should ask.
  2. BE SENSITIVE: Should you ask them more in front of the group or pull them aside later? Rely on Him to help you know when and to show you a window of time.
  3. BE COMPASSIONATE: Ask a follow-up question to a request shared in the group. Consider it in light of their last requests. How might these affect each other or be affecting their heart? *Perhaps encourage your group to write the request down weekly so that you can look back at the list.
  4.  BE HELPFUL: Lead them to the freeing truth in prayer. Sit with them and ask the Lord,

Is there any lie they are believing about their circumstances right now? Are there any lies or burdens they need to give to the Lord? What truth does He want to replace any lies in their life? What does He want to give to them to face their circumstances right now?”


For more steps to consider in prayer, check out “An Overview of a Pray Through it Session” or our free Pray Through It Handbook. 


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Overview of a Pray-Through-It Session

The basic approach of a 90 minute Pray Through It Session can be summarized as follows: Step one, begin by dedicating the room and all prayer participants in prayer, asking God to bring us into a posture of listening (minds at rest and hearts at peace). Step two, after listening briefly to the prayer recipient, pose a question to God. Step three, listen for a response from God in prayer in the form of a memory, emotion, word/phrase, or image. Step four, ask God to protect them from the pain of past memories as He reminds them of the time in their life when this became a part of them. Step five, partner with them to listen to God as He reveals and re-frames any false views of their identity in relation to God and others and their bad life strategies (called sin). And finally, step six, close in a prayer of thanksgiving and dedication.

This chart overviews what it could look like to pray through it:

The Cyclical Process

Note that the process is cyclical. Lies concerning the self, relationships, and our life strategies are intertwined much like a knotted ball of string. Therefore, during any session, you will want to strategically focus on getting as many of the biggest knots out as quickly and effectively as you can within that time. In the process, you will likely need to untie several important smaller knots in the process in order to move forward on the bigger knots. This means that during any prayer session, you may at times need to briefly pause from the big knot, cycling through steps 2-5, in order to have mini prayer sessions on smaller knots before returning to untie the bigger knot.

For example, as you are praying with someone about letting go of their worry, you might discover that their worry masquerades as something serving a useful purpose, making it hard for them to give up. You would then shift to discovering that purpose, uncovering and dealing with the lie that is holding it in place in order to help them surrender their worry along with the lie that is holding it in place. You will likely do this several times (sometimes many times) within a single prayer session within your 60-90 minute session. However, by the end of your session, you and the one you are praying with will almost always have a linear understanding of how an event led to a knotted lie that lead to a knotted belief that lead to a knotted life strategy. In addition, not only will they understand the way they were (note the past tense here), they will now be free from the knots caused by unbiblical vows, partnerships, discipleship, pronouncements, “I am” and “my” statements, curses, sinful solutions, lies, etc. As the string is unknotted, you will be able to recount together how all of these things were inter-related (See chart below).

A couple of things are of note at this point. First, it is important to note that what is being advocated here is not step-by-step methods or processes, but an understanding of the relationship between how what we believe affects how we view and approach the world. And more importantly, the extent of your success with this approach will hinge greatly upon your willingness and ability to step aside to allow God to guide the healing process. Once you are willing to do this, you will find yourself sitting in a front row seat to see God working to transform people in prayer right before your eyes. People will come in brokenness and they will leave no longer conformed to this world, but transformed by the renewing of their minds (Romans 12:2). They will understand anew Jesus’ promise to take their heavy burdens and to grant them rest (Matthew 11:28-30). They will understand what it feels like to cast their cares upon the Lord and to receive the peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). And I can tell you, for me, there is no better way to spend an hour of my life than to watch God heal the broken-hearted, release the captives and set prisoners free (Luke 4:18)! Who knew that these catchy sayings of Christianity actually described a powerful spiritual reality?